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My Treatise on Respect

There is something I wish to address with you all. It is something that I have seen time and time again by many members of our pagan community, especially in my valley. It is lack of respect for those with years of experience in the arts. We speak of respect of each other, of seeing the Goddess and God within, yet time and time again I am astounded by the rudeness and discourteousness of many of our own witches to the Elders of the Craft and even to High Priestess. Why is this happening? Is it because there is so many self initatited out there and they don't spend time on ethics and respect in many of the books. Is it because they feel they really do know more or is it just plain bad manners? Do they think they need only respect those of their grove/coven? If this is true why do they trash their teachers behind the teachers backs, and say good things to their face.

Ours is a religion in which wisdom and age as well as experience is venerated and revered, or at least it should be. Yet more and more often, this is not what I hear…Now many of you say respect must be earned…but isnt years of experience and service to the Goddess and God earning a modicum of respect.

I, myself have well over 30 years of hands on metaphysical study in many avenues of interest. In fact I started serious study at the age of 8, however formal study started at 10. I will be 43 in a few days, this study had gleaned me much knowledge and I hope wisdom, I have learned much and continue to learn, as I will all the days of my life. Yet it has been many a year since I was addressed as "my lady" or with my full raking name. Why??? I feel that many times when students learn they get to different levels, and much like children growing they often think they know it all (especially when they reach 1st degree) and they think that showing respect in some way weakens their accomplishments, yet nothing could be further from the truth.

It is in fact honoring the Goddess and God to realize and express your respect for others and for their accomplishments within the Goddess and God. To demean these people and the years they have studied demeans yourself and the Goddess and God. For is it not a fact that the High Priestess is the human embodiment of the Goddess, Her Ambassador if you will. Why then is it so hard to show respect for these people?

When you ask a question of an Elder or a High Priestess (or High Priest) let them answer. Do not argue and say "oh no! it is not that way for me, I know better." Do not cut them off or be rude. For it was you who asked! Be civil and listen. Take in what they are saying, and thank them for listening to you. Then weigh what was said and apply it to your life or not, what ever works for you. But be respectful, show a thankfulness as they are gracious enough to take time and answer you. They care about you and want to offer what insights their experience has given them. Do not turn away because it isnt what you want to hear or isnt something you think you know. If you knew the answer why would you bother them and ask, to waste their time?

Another point to consider is a persons age in their journey, how many years have they worked and taught in the service of the Goddess. Is this not worth some acknowledgment on your part. Some esteem on your part of what they have done. Again I cite myself and my valley. Here almost 11 years ago I opened the very first Metaphysical store in the state. I worked hard to educate and teach (to date almost 100 students have crossed my path at some time and studied with me.) Then at the direction of the Goddess I closed my physical site doors and went online, where I continue to work as a vessel of the Lady. But times have changed here and many who are now active on the pagan scene were but mere unfocused children (10 and 12 years old.) They remember little of me, when I was out there opening the way for acceptance in our area. They have little to no respect for me or for the Works the Lady instructed me to do. Yet they know my rank and my years of experience. So I ask if we can not show honor to those within our own religion how can we ever expect others to?

Now some may think that this is all ego and power, I have considered that. Yet I tell you it is not, it is nothing more than a plea for dignity, honor, nobility and respect for the many hours I have served not only the Lady but in Loving Service to Others. There is nothing wrong with looking for a well deserved pat on the back, or for asking if you have truly made a difference in the lives of those around you. If your accomplishments were worthy of your life and worthy of the Goddess you serve. If you died tomorrow would anyone truly grieve your passing and would you and your experience that you wished to share be missed by the community. These are all things not of ego but of heart and soul, to know that what we did will be remembered and that we are acceptable works for the Bright Lord and Lady. For it is said that even King Arthur wondered if what he did would be remembered, and if one as noble as he may wonder why cant we all? We only ask that those who we call Brothers and Sisters in the Craft acknowledge the difficult journey we have made, the commitment we have shown and the enduring wisdom's we have gained on our spiritual path.

So Dear Ones, next time you meet an Elder or a High Priestess (either of which has more years and experience that you.) Speak softly to them, listen intently and address them as they should be addressed "My Lady" or "My Lord" It matters not if you like them or if they are from your own tradition or not. It matters only that in your respect of them you show respect to the Bright Lord and Lady, who have chosen them as their vessels and who has shared many of the mysteries with them, which they can impart with you if you but listen. Feel proud that they have softened the path for you and honor their accomplishments as you would like others to do for you.

Let us bring back the magick as it was meant to be, not as TV says it should be. Let us respect those who have cleared a path for us. Let us acknowledge the works of each other (young and old) Let us embrace one another and encourage one another. Let us respect that which has been given to us as teachers, guides and revered members of our religion. Let us show civility, politeness, consideration for our Elders and High Priestess and general members of the Craft. Once I was talking to a friend of mine little boy (all of about 6) and he said "I don't know why people fight…I mean we all know what nice is..so why not just be it!" That I think sums it up best, just be nice!

Forever In The Loving Service Of Others

Bright Blessings to all

Lady Wolfen Mists

*This is in no way pointing a finger at any of my current Wolfen Wicca ® students so please don't e-mail me asking what you had done, it is more for where I live and the things going on here. I am just airing my feelings and I want to stress the need for respect not just for those of Wolfen Wicca® but for all traditions who walk a positive spiritual path.

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